One & [Happily] Done.

In case you’re someone who hasn’t asked me yet, I have zero plans to create any more human beings. The words, ‘Perfectly Content’ come to mind when I think about the three person operation I have going on.

We have a dad, a mom and our 8 year old.

Being pregnant wasn’t a negative experience & has nothing to do with the choice I’ve made. I loved being pregnant. Growing a person inside your body is kind of an amazing experience & I’d totally do it again…If I didn’t have to be thrown back into infant parenting.

quoteHave you ever gotten married, and then told people you weren’t trying to make a
baby? It’s interesting. Depending on the person, the emotions vary. You have the really disappointed grandparents, the new-parent-friends who want to make sure you’re sure it’s the right decision & then there are the people who just stare at you – confused.

Allow me to explain:

My child is currently basking in his independence and we all love it. Why would I want to disrupt that?

He’s old enough to appreciate awesome day trips [that he’ll remember] and he can play outside without supervision.  He helps out around the house AND he’s fun to be around.

I was young when I had my human & I will be young when he moves out. I didn’t plan it this way; I thought I’d have more than one, but before we knew it he was eight years old. Who wants to start all over again when you’re about half way done?!

Let’s talk about money; I do not swim in it. I want to provide my son with as much security and awesomeness as possible. Unlike a lot of my generation, I don’t agree with bringing more children into the world when we’re not financially prepared for it.

I made that mistake once while it all worked out, I learned from it.

Our entire dynamic would change if an infant was introduced to our family. I don’t even remember what it’s like to have a baby. I don’t remember what it’s like to have a toddler. Having legit conversations with my offspring… it’s what I’ve gotten used to.

One & [Happily] Done.

5 thoughts on “One & [Happily] Done.

  1. That’s how I felt after number 2. I remember telling my wife if we have a third, she’s waking up EVERY SINGLE NIGHT. I’m not doing one, ever again. I basically she would be a single parent if we had a third. I think she got the point.


  2. Good for you. Too often couples are pressurized by friends, family or society in general to have children or multiple children. That doesn’t work for every couple, nor should it. I admire couples who understand what THEY want or can afford and stick to their principles.


  3. I will never understand people who think what is good for them will automatically be good for another person. It’s literally Humaning 101. You do you and leave everyone else the hell alone. Or something like that. Anyway, good for you. Your son seems like a very loved, lucky little guy 🙂


  4. “Have you ever gotten married, and then told people you weren’t trying to make a
    baby?” STORY OF MY LIFE.
    I’d like to birth a mini me some day. I used to want two. Now one sounds better. Can I do 0.8???

    As long as you’re happy with your threesome that’s all that matters. It sounds like you have a wonderful dynamic and adding another kid could throw off all the positive mojo anyways.

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    1. I’m glad someone can relate!
      You can totally do .8 – that’s when a sibling or friend has a baby that lives nearby… Babysit as often as you’d like & spoil the shit out of it… Give it back.

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