There we were, my husband and I, both trying to get that ever-so-important final word in. I can’t even tell you what we were bickering about, but I’m positive that it was something dumb – bickering is always for something dumb. If it was of any importance, it certainly would have escalated into an actual argument and I’d know exactly what it was pertaining to…and why I was right and my husband was wrong.
Yeah, okay…whatever you say.
Seriously! I just tried to end this.
After all that, an exceptional statement came out of my mouth:
I’m not going to let that bother me.
Brandin just looked back at me and I watched a smirk grow on his face, and that was that.
Okay, okay…I admit, I fully intended for that statement to be snide; one more little jab. I was legit surprised when I realized I actually felt better, and not a VICTORY-IS-MINE sorta better, it was as if I had literally just chucked that bicker-fest out the window.
What was supposed to be a disparaging remark, turned into quite the opposite. Give it a whirl, and not only when squabbling. For instance:
- Oh, the jerk in the fancy car just cut me off? I’m not going to let that bother me.
- Interesting… You canceled plans with me because you have a headache – and you were just tagged on Facebook at Applebee’s? I’m not going to let that bother me.
- My dog that was just outside for 20 minutes but still crapped on the floor. I’m not going to let that bother me.
There is really something to this, I promise. I’m no head-doctor and I’m certainly not an expert in staying calm (ask my husband) but hearing those words, they’ve helped digest situations and from there, there’s a choice. Is it worth the negative feelings? More often than not, I’d rather just stay in a good mood.