Dear Brock Turner

Ahh, freedom. Feels good, doesn’t it? While majority of America (and maybe even the rest of the word) loathes your miserable existence, I can’t help but wonder how you spent your first night home.

Are you scared? Do you fear for your safety? What do you think the chances are that people in your neighborhood want to assault you? While you are walking down the street I hope you are afraid and can feel the eyes watching you.

I hope you feel victimized.

The reality of it is though, you will never know the true meaning of that word.

I read your statement and it made me sick to my stomach. Rich, white male privilege seeps out of you; tell me, did you come up with that on your own or did your lawyer help you? I wonder if while you were penning that piece of garbage if you felt any remorse. You do not get to blame ‘party culture’ for stealing a woman’s sense of self. That night behind a dumpster, you took that from her. The fault is yours, and yours alone.

You are the problem.

You did a good job of painting a picture of an innocent kid from Ohio who was culture-shocked by the college lifestyle, except you were tripping on acid, enjoying the highs of marijuana and drinking alcohol long before you arrived at Stanford. Did you believe that’d be kept under wraps? There is no help available that can cure you of your arrogance and messed up rational.

While you fear the protesters outside your house, there are women afraid to come forward about being sexually assaulted all over the country. Your many disgusting choices and Judge Aaron Persky’s less than honorable six-month sentence is why assaults are kept secret.

It hardly seems worth the effort, tears and pain of re-living the trauma when our justice system seems to  care more about you, the rapist, having the ability to finish college; the same party-culture place you blamed your actions on.

After your words, I read hers and cried. I felt her statements ooze with not only immense sadness but with an equal amount of power. Her will to take back what you took from her is greater and more substantial than any story that helps you sleep at night.

According to him, the only reason we were on the ground was because I fell down. Note; if a girl falls down help her get back up. If she is too drunk to even walk and falls down, do not mount her, hump her, take off her underwear, and insert your hand inside her vagina. If a girl falls down help her up. If she is wearing a cardigan over her dress don’t take it off so that you can touch her breasts. Maybe she is cold, maybe that’s why she wore the cardigan.

[victim impact statement]

I hope that someday you have a daughter and nothing bad ever happens to her. I simply want you know that there are men like you out there – waiting for her to be too drunk to consent. Watching her stumble across the room at a party, perceiving her as an opportunity.

Rot in hell,

Jen

Seriously, STFU: All Lives Matter

Would you go to a cancer walk and feel the need to tell people that MS is also a disease?

Psst… Just so you know, Alzheimer’s matters too.

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For those of you preaching a sermon about us all being one race – the human race – please, wake up. While technically yes, we are all part of the human race and it’s a pleasant idea that we’re all granted the same opportunities…but we’re not and that’s the problem.

When did you all become so passionate, anyway?

I couldn’t help but notice that most of you who are vocalizing your right to matter too were silent after Philando Castile and Alton Sterling’s lives were taken, yet after police were murdered in Dallas a bunch of folks seemed to be offended that there wasn’t quite enough outrage over the police officer casualties – because not only do all lives matter – blue lives matter too. Obviously blue lives matter because everyone knows that a cop killer wouldn’t go free.

There is a difference between what happened in Dallas and what happened to Alton and Philando.

If one morning an officer is putting on his uniform and feels afraid he has the right, and the ability, to walk away from the profession. In no way, shape or form am I implying that since they knew the risk involved that it is less of a tragedy, I’m simply trying to put it in perspective. Black men are afraid and there is nothing they can do about it except stick together, support each other and hope they don’t end up at the wrong place at the wrong time.

You can smear All Lives Matter across your Facebook wall but that doesn’t change the fact that last night, tonight and tomorrow there are black mothers who are going to sit down with their sons before bed and have a discussion that I can’t begin to comprehend. I am not able to wrap my head around it because of something called, white privilege and if you want to pretend it isn’t real – I regret to inform you that you’re living in a fantasy world.

If you truly believe that all lives matter, prove it. Proclaiming that your race matters too is greedy as fuck. Let them have this – this is not about you, white people.

The ignorant arguments that are floating around this madness imply that there’s a higher chance that the killings of Alton Sterling and Philando Castile were justified rather than assume a police officer made the wrong choice.

Is a cop more innocent until proven guilty than the black guy he just killed?

I’m just wondering, is that because he had special training and took an oath to protect and serve? Meanwhile, the Bahamas issued a travel advisory warning their citizens to be wary of our cops…[“Young males are asked to exercise extreme caution.”]

Stop talking about black-on-black crime, stop talking about their criminal records (or lack thereof), stop using the word thug and for the love of God, please stop talking about us all being part of the same race while spewing this garbage.

I believe if Alton and Philando were young white men they would still be alive – end of story. That is why the Black Lives Matter movement is important and that is why they don’t need to share it with anyone else.

All Lives Matter? Seriously, STFU.

This. #blacklivesmatter

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I’m a Bernie Sanders Supporter … Now What?

When I jumped head first into the political pond, which is actually more of an infested slimy swamp, I had few opinions. I caught wind of this senator from Vermont and he made me feel optimistic and since I was so taken aback by this guy, all along I assumed that majority of the American people would eventually jump on this Bernie train with me and we’d all ride off into the sunset…

Instead, I find myself wishing I lived in Australia where I could comfortably, with no fear of being shot by a stranger, be popping popcorn into my mouth while this madness unfolds. Never in my wildest dreams did I think I’d ever feel heartbroken over a political process.

I do feel like Bernie Sanders was treated unfairly and I do not care if you think I’m simply being a sore loser.

Harvard released a study that confirmed that while Bernie Sanders was out making history the majority of the republican nominees were the ones getting the coverage. Five Republican contenders—‘Trump, Bush, Cruz, Rubio, and Carson—each had more news coverage than Sanders during the invisible primary. Clinton got three times more coverage than he did.

I’ve watched Bernie Sanders speeches get cut off mid-sentence for commercial breaks – while he is talking to a stadium with record breaking attendance. Is that not news?

Meanwhile, Google suggests that perhaps you’re looking to find information regarding Hillary Clinton India rather than Hillary Clinton Indictment. Which is really ironic, considering if you dig into the public demographics of the Google searches, the number of people who search for Hillary Clinton India are significantly less than the other.

Go ahead and try it for yourselves.

I searched on Google first because it’s synced to my phone with Android which is also connected to my Chrome browser – I mean – who even uses Yahoo! anymore?

CNN quickly published an article explaining the logic. Basically, Google is super smart and the other search engines (every single one) do not meet Google’s level of technical filtering abilities. Or, just throwing this out there, it could be that Time Warner owns CNN and also happens to be a top contributor to Hillary Clinton’s campaign – investing over $600,000. But I’m no expert, just a crazy Bernie supporter.

Whether the process was rigged or fair and square, we now have to deal with the outcome. I do not want to place a vote for Hillary Clinton and I can say with confidence that I will never place a vote for Donald Trump. I’m left here hoping there is still another option. I trust the guy so I’ll wait for the convention, see what he has to say and go from there.

What I do know is that the revolution is not stopping with this election. We’ve got a progressive army ready to run for local and state government with these radical ideas in their pockets. Less than 24 hours after U.S. Sen. Bernie Sanders called on his supporters to run for office at the local or state level, nearly 6,700 people have signed up.

For those solely depending on mainstream media, you may have missed that part of Bernie’s plan.

The point is change can come about, but it only comes about when millions of people are actively involved in political struggle; the billionaires may have the money, but we have the people.

-Bernie Sanders

For now… I’m stickin’ with the #StillSanders crowd.

I Live in the Drunkest City in America

With more than 20,000 cities populating the United States, what are the odds that four out of the top ten drunkest cities in America are within 25 minutes of my home, while living in number one? Even if we go a bit further out, 11 out of the top 20 are in Wisconsin.

[Drunkest city in U.S.? It’s Appleton, Wis., report says]

I did not grow up here, I moved from Minnesota roughly seven years ago and while I still feel uneasy when people call the drinking fountain a bubbler, and I still want to slap the mouths that say Duck Duck Goose rather than, Duck Duck Grey Duck… I feel comfortable calling the Badger state my home.

So what is this list all about anyway?

The first time it perused across my screen I assumed it was a local survey of sorts, I mean, four out of ten cities I consider local, even spending significant amounts of time in each of them, it made sense. Knowing now that the gathered information consumes the entire country, I can’t help but laugh and everyone else around here seems to find this tidbit of national spotlight amusing right along with me.

I logged onto Facebook today and was instantly greeted by three variations of the story – one was the original, followed by two covers from the local news and radio stations and then the plethora of friends who shared the news with a bunch of laugh-cry emojis.

For the record, it is not that there is nothing else to do out here, it’s just normal to drink while doing everything.

Last year, trick or treating in Appleton, Wisconsin we stumbled across a couple in their late 20’s or early 30’s, with no children, pulling a wagon full of Busch Light. Parents walking over, laughing it up over their clever take on adult trick-or-treating. Does this kind of thing happen in Arizona or Connecticut? If I’m being honest, we already had some chocolate liqueur mixed with our hot chocolate for the trek through the neighborhood. Don’t judge us.

Now that I’ve seen this list, I’m beginning to think our normal, out here in drunksville, is not necessarily the norm for the occupants in the other 19,000+ cities. I’m being forced into these assumptions that people outside of Wisconsin who look at this list think we’re all a bunch of slurring, staggering morons. I’m stuck imagining people in Oregon and Utah right now, sipping their herbal tea or decaf coffee gossiping about how we must hate our lives to have so many heavy drinkers condensed in one common area…

…but most of us don’t.

Sure, there are people who can’t handle themselves or their alcohol consumption as well as the next Wisconsinite, but overall, it’s a way of life that everyone is simply accustomed to; call it a tolerance if you will. I could name at least five people in my life that would tell you, without hesitation, four or five drinks in a two-hour span of time is nothing. I imagine their look would scream: Yeah, and…?

Out here we have these restaurants called Supper Clubs, where people gladly wait over an hour for a table because they enjoy sipping on cocktails before dinner – that’s the whole point of coming. Even when there is no wait, a large chunk of individuals will belly up to the bar before taking a seat in the dining room only to find themselves back where they started for an after-dinner drink. Sometimes it’s a grasshopper, sometimes it’s coffee and Kahlua and sometimes it’s Jack on the rocks but it’s never considered abnormal.

Coming from Minnesota, where you can’t purchase any alcohol on Sundays and the rest of the week it’s sold only in liquor stores, you can imagine my face when I stopped into Walmart and saw a section full of alcoholic adult beverages. I felt like a rebel. You mean, I can just throw this 12 pack of Coors Light with my toilet paper, deodorant and greeting card… and be on my way?

You can buy booze at Walgreens.

Sick? Picking up a prescription for a nasty virus? No worries, you can throw in that bottle of brandy the doctor suggested under his breath; one stop shop.

I mean, if we’re being real though this list came from recent statistics the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism found on per capita alcohol consumption, which makes it a touch more sensitive.

Thankfully most of us have already passed the denial phase, if there even was one, we accept who we are. Wisconsin residents and I drink more than we should; good, bad or ugly… it’s the norm. Call it an excuse if you’d like, in Wisconsin, it’s a culture.

Cheers.

[S is for] Seriously, STFU: Transgender Bathroom Policies

The right to use a public bathroom is not something that should be up for debate. I’ve snuck into the men’s room on multiple occasions and have never been approached by an officer and no laws are getting passed about it. If common sense could be utilized by the masses it would be apparent that everyone has the same goal in this particular place.fb_img_1461948462416.jpg

Do your business, mind your business and life goes on. The world will continue to spin even if the person next to you was born with the opposite genitalia as you.

*gasp*

Are there some disturbed individuals who also happen to be transgender, sure. There are erratic people of all kinds and colors in this world – they’re everywhere – this is not new information and we won’t escape them by making new bathroom rules. Forcing people to prove their gender (at birth) before being allowed to relieve themselves is a crazy, insane concept that makes my head spin.

An ID? Really?!

A natural disposal of waste is not that serious, we’re pissing and shitting, get over it. For anyone to suggest this whole bathroom fiasco is anything other than a display of hate, power, fear, control and segregation is laughable. This has nothing to do with the safety of your little girl, it has everything to do with the transgender men and women who just need to take a leak. Who believes that a person would go through all that being transgender entails so that he/she could waltz into a public bathroom and be creepy or inappropriate? That would imply that it’s a choice, which is a debate for another day.

‘If this was YOUR daughter, would you be comfortable sending her into a men’s bathroom? Neither would I. Be fair. Be kind. Be empathetic. Treat others how you would like to be treated.’ –Meg Bitton

Statistics Show Exactly How Many Times Trans People Have Attacked You in Bathroom

Surprise: There are zero reported cases of this happening. Making these human beings validate their identities to you or anyone else… is for nothing.

Seriously, STFU.


A-Z Challenge: S is for STFU