‘Sorry’ Doesn’t Really Cut It, Josh Duggar

I have never watched an episode of 19 kids and counting, so you could say that my opinion regarding Josh Duggar molesting young children is pretty unbiased. If we’re being blunt though – when a crime is committed against a young person who is unable to defend themselves – there shouldn’t even be the option of being biased…period.

People are reaching out and showing support simply because he owned up to it? Where is the support and outreach for the children [some being his sisters] that he assaulted? Since when does justice take a back seat to an apology?

If this was not a white guy with a well-known christian faith and for lack of better terms – celebrity family – the news articles would read much differently.

I’m shocked at the amount of support he is receiving with little mention of the victims. I am appalled that there are people in positions of power who are going on the record saying, “Good people make bad mistakes”.

Well, no shit. The problem is that molesting a child is not simply a mistake.

I made a mistake the other day when I yelled at my kid over something minuscule. I make mistakes often; to put something as inappropriate as what Josh Duggar did in the same category makes me want to vomit.

In his pubic apology he says, he confessed to his parents and received counseling and follows that with, “…I understood that if I continued down this wrong road that I would end up ruining my life.” 

His life, can’t ruin that… 

[Josh Duggar Resigns From Antigay Family Research Council Amid Sexual Abuse Allegations]

Josh Duggar did not beat someone up. Josh Duggar did not name-call. Josh Duggar did not pull a prank that went too far. Josh Duggar did not accidentally mistake anything… Josh Duggar made the decision to grope and molest his sisters and other kids. 

4 out of the 5 victims were his own family members & to say they went to the authorities, like many media outlets are reporting – the truth is, they didn’t go to the authorities until a year had passed, and it was only because he had done it again. I’m sorry doesn’t cut it & if it did – the prisons here in America would be much less crowded.

In other news: Josh Duggar is a much larger danger to society than any gay person I’ve ever met.

Adrian Peterson: Barred From All Viking Team Activities

I do not think Adrian Peterson is a child abuser & my opinion remains the same.

I woke up this morning and found out that the Minnesota Viking’s have banned Adrian Peterson from participating in any and all team activities & placed him on the exempt list while his legal woes are worked out.

This, coming after Minnesota Governor Mark Dayton released a statement calling Adrian Peterson’s actions, “a public embarrassment” to the Vikings and the state of Minnesota. I have to imagine Mr. Dayton is pretty upset over all of this considering the amount of money his state has invested in the new stadium – this can’t look good.

I’m so tired of the public jury, sponsors & ignorant people… playing judge. People continue to base their judgment on the shock value of one act of conduct. People so rapidly want to throw Adrian Peterson to the wolves & call him a child abuser – the public mob is out of control.

In my opinion, intent plays a role. If you believe that Adrian Peterson maliciously punished his child with a switch with the intent of nothing more than to abuse him (making him a child abuser) – that’s ignorant. His intent was to discipline him – and he went overboard. He has been honest & truthful about the event since it happened & agrees that the injury he caused was excessive.

I have never been punished with a switch, nor have I ever used one – but I’d like to meet the person who grew up in Texas who was & a mark was not left. Everyone is so tied up in the marks that were left on this little boy.  All over the place I see comments, “The pictures were FOUR DAYS LATER!!”  Flesh wounds develop over time – scabs form, bruises form… the amount of time that passed before the pictures were snapped don’t make them any more dramatic.

Shock Value – people love it.

For all we know, Adrian Peterson’s kid still views his dad as Superman. Who knows?!? You don’t. I don’t. Public Opinion it just black & white. This issue of phsyical discipline and child abuse in Texas is not black & white.

No one will convince me that Adrian Peterson is a child abuser.

If it is your own personal moral belief that physical discipline is wrong – that’s okay, you’re entitled to that. If Adrian Peterson believes in physical discipline… in Texas, where it is legal – he’s not a monster or a child abuser. He’s a dad who was disciplining his child how he saw fit – and took it too far unintentionally.

The real problem lies with the way the National Football League has been handling these situations. Just yesterday, I listened to Viking’s general manger, Rick Spielman and head coach, Mike Zimmer talk about how Adrian Peterson has a right to play football while the legal process plays out. Suddenly, sponsors start pulling out because of the public opinion & shock value… and suddenly Adrian isn’t allowed to participate in any team activity.

Money, Money, Money.

I took a similar stance regarding Ray Rice. He sat down with coaches & NFL Commissioner, Roger Goodell shortly after it happened. He flat out said he punched Janay Rice in the face in that elevator – Goodell handed down a 2 game suspension. What happened after the video came out and there was public outcry?

These athletes are not in the right in their actions but they don’t deserve to be lynched and discarded as monsters by the public court of opinion. I want to know how many people who are calling Adrian Peterson a child abuser have educated themselves on the details behind it all. If you did…guess what? You still don’t know half of it… none of us do. We were not there, we don’t know the situations or actions that led up to anything. It’s not our right to play judge.

Adrian Peterson Is Not A Child Abuser

I again, am going to take an unpopular stance just as I did with the Ray Rice issue. Adrian Peterson has made it clear that his intentions were to discipline & admitted that he went overboard; the intent was not to injure his child. I’ve read a lot of comments from people who are saying, “That is NOT a spanking!!” – He never claimed it was.

He called it a whooping & flat out told the grand jury that no one will stop him from whopping his kids when he sees fit.  He told the child’s mother after it happened that all his kids will say that their daddy has the biggest heart – but He doesn’t mess around when it comes to acting right.

Perhaps you have never laid a hand on your child(ren) and you have your ways of parenting that work for you… that’s great; keep up the good work. You have that right, just as I feel a parent should have a right to physically discipline. If my 7 year old son says “Fuck” & I smack him in the mouth, the sincere intent behind my physical discipline is not malicious.

Yes, I saw the pictures & yes, they made me cringe. Would I punish my child with a switch? No… I didn’t even know what a “switch” was until this all came out. Do I spank my child? Yes, and it works for me. About a month ago, I started a draft…

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I’ve gone over this before – our job as parents is to raise functional members of society. How you choose to do that, is your business as long as your child(ren) are not in any real danger. Charles Barkley was quoted as saying, “Every black parent in the South is going to be in jail under those circumstances.” Personally, I wish more attention would be focused on the parents who do not discipline their children.

There are 19 states in America where it’s perfectly legal for teachers or principals to punish students by hitting them repeatedly instead of just giving them detention. While many of the states do not enforce that form of punishment regularly, one Texas school district administered corporal punishment to more than 120 kids in 2011 alone.  If teachers are allowed to whoop a kid – parent’s should have at minimum – equal rights without being judged for it.

The Minnesota Vikings have placed Adrian Peterson as active for this Sunday’s game against the Saints in New Orleans … as he should be in my opinion. He was indicted for “reckless or negligent injury to a child.” – which he has admitted to, and has been cooperative since. He has not had his day in court & whether you agree with me or not I believe he loves his kids & wants well for them. I think he went too far – you think he went too far & he thinks he went too far.

He is not a child abuser.

Who Donated Money To Shanesha Taylor?

There is a buzz going around about a mother in Arizona who left her 2 small children in her vehicle while she attended a job interview…for an hour.

The children were 2 years little & 6 months little.

If you have no clue what I’m talking about & you’d like to get caught up to speed you can read this.

Her mugshot got released & there are tears streaming down her face; as you can imagine, she looks pretty darn sad.

I’ll admit it. Before I knew some of the details, I also felt that little, “Weeellll….She is homeless. She really needed the job” feeling.

I’m human.

The lady in New Jersey who started some sort of online fund for her apparently felt super-duper-out-of-this-world bad for her.

Unfortunatly Apparently she was not alone seeing as more than $90,000 was donated.

Dear People [who donated money to this woman],

Seeing as you have extra money to give, I would like to provide you with a few better obvious other options.

I will make the process familiar & very simple.

If you are feeling so inclined to donate, just go right ahead and click on the charity of your choosing.

Thank you for your consideration,

Jen

The keys were left in the vehicle, but I’m not sure why.

Logically and most obviously : to have the air conditioner running.

Nope, but she did have the decency to leave the windows open about an inch. I looked it up; It was 83 degrees in Scottsdale, Arizona on March 20th. The 6 month old baby was dressed in a t-shirt, layered over a long sleeve shirt & had a blanket on.

I’m not saying I would have condoned her immense stupidity, I do however feel confident saying I wouldn’t hate her (as much) if she attempted to do more than crack the windows.

I put myself in her shoes to the best of my ability. I sympathize with her sad situation. Even if her intentions were good, nothing I came up with justifies her actions.

It’s child abuse. Period.

On the chance that it’s literally impossible for you to find appropriate care for your children & missing a job interview is just not an option (because you’re a good mother and have the motivation to provide) … you trot those kids in there with you.

It’d be risky… It certainly has potential to be frowned upon.

With that being said…

I am willing to guarantee it is less frowned upon than leaving your kids (babies) in a hot vehicle unattended for an hour.

I would not be upset about $90,000 being donated to a homeless woman who brought her children to a job interview.