[S is for] Seriously, STFU: Transgender Bathroom Policies

The right to use a public bathroom is not something that should be up for debate. I’ve snuck into the men’s room on multiple occasions and have never been approached by an officer and no laws are getting passed about it. If common sense could be utilized by the masses it would be apparent that everyone has the same goal in this particular place.fb_img_1461948462416.jpg

Do your business, mind your business and life goes on. The world will continue to spin even if the person next to you was born with the opposite genitalia as you.

*gasp*

Are there some disturbed individuals who also happen to be transgender, sure. There are erratic people of all kinds and colors in this world – they’re everywhere – this is not new information and we won’t escape them by making new bathroom rules. Forcing people to prove their gender (at birth) before being allowed to relieve themselves is a crazy, insane concept that makes my head spin.

An ID? Really?!

A natural disposal of waste is not that serious, we’re pissing and shitting, get over it. For anyone to suggest this whole bathroom fiasco is anything other than a display of hate, power, fear, control and segregation is laughable. This has nothing to do with the safety of your little girl, it has everything to do with the transgender men and women who just need to take a leak. Who believes that a person would go through all that being transgender entails so that he/she could waltz into a public bathroom and be creepy or inappropriate? That would imply that it’s a choice, which is a debate for another day.

‘If this was YOUR daughter, would you be comfortable sending her into a men’s bathroom? Neither would I. Be fair. Be kind. Be empathetic. Treat others how you would like to be treated.’ –Meg Bitton

Statistics Show Exactly How Many Times Trans People Have Attacked You in Bathroom

Surprise: There are zero reported cases of this happening. Making these human beings validate their identities to you or anyone else… is for nothing.

Seriously, STFU.


A-Z Challenge: S is for STFU

A White Guy Walks Into A Black Church…

A white man walks into an historic African-American church in Charleston, South Carolina; he sits in a pew during a bible study for an hour before taking it upon himself to take the lives of nine people. 6 females and 3 men;  four of them reverends, died in a building that should be a safe haven – for any reason on any day of the week.

A place of joy and togetherness was turned into a shooting range brought on by nothing more than hate and ignorance. The oldest victim was 87 years old, the youngest, 26.

The facts will remain facts and opinions will run ramped. We’ll see news coverage with the shooter’s face plastered for all to see. The conversation will focus on what prompted the murders, what the victimizer’s childhood was like & we’ll hear how people perceived him.

It’s the same story, a different day. When will the focus be on the victims, rather than the victimizer?

[Charleston Church Shooting: Tributes Paid to ‘Kind-Hearted’ Victims]

The thing about the Charleston shooting is that this is the first one where I didn’t feel shocked. The emotion behind it was borderline numb.

“Of course it happened again…”

I felt disgusted with my feelings that have done nothing more than adapt to our way of life in America now. It’s like we, as a nation are just waiting for the next tragedy to hit. Is this violence the norm now? Do we have to just sit back and accept it? Where does it end?

I don’t see one in sight.

Even John Stewart opted out of his usual funny monologue to acknowledge the fact that still, we won’t do jack shit.

This shooting was nothing more and nothing less than a hate-fueled terrorist attack…  and we won’t do anything more than pick apart the health and mindset of this person & wait for the next crazy ass person to do it again. The media will continue to produce the ammunition, while we soak it up.

Keep it classy, America.

Rest In Peace.

  • Cynthia Hurd, 54, branch manager for the Charleston County Library System
  • Susie Jackson, 87, longtime church member
  • Ethel Lance, 70, employee of Emanuel AME Church for 30 years
  • Rev. DePayne Middleton-Doctor, 49, admissions counselor of Southern Wesleyan University
  • The Honorable Rev. Clementa Pinckney, 41, state senator, Reverend of Emanuel AME Church
  • Tywanza Sanders, 26, earned business administration degree from Allen University
  • Rev. Daniel Simmons Sr., 74, retired pastor (died at MUSC)
  • Rev. Sharonda Singleton, 45, track coach at Goose Creek High School
  • Myra Thompson, 59, church member

I Have A Girl Crush On Miley Cyrus

Happy Hippie Foundation Miley Cyrus

Girl Crush Definition

[As a 30 year old I do not typically use that phrase – but it seemed appropriate]

I’m offended when I read an article or listen to people spewing their uneducated opinions on Miley Cyrus.

She’s not crazy. She knows exactly what she’s doing. 

I got your back, girl.

It all started one day on the treadmill… the remote was out of reach and, Miley: The Movement on MTV was forced upon me. I wasn’t thrilled, but it was better than silence reminding me that I can’t run and breathe at the same time. I was legit bummed out when it was over… and the girl crush began.

I don’t want to be perfect, but I do want to be a role model. My mom always tells me that imperfections equal beauty. All of us are imperfect. –Miley Cyrus

It’s obnoxious how quickly people cast a judgement on other human beings for being a free spirit – which is exactly what she is.

As a youngin’ she played a role for a television show and was quite good at being squeaky clean, Hannah Montana. The reason she was able to convince the general public that she was this character is because she’s talented. When the show ended and she explored her talents elsewhere and was able to express herself as MILEY – suddenly she an outta control crazy-pants.

Quick! Let’s all judge her! 

While a large number of people are trash-talking Miley Cyrus – she’s been a busy gal, doing a lot of not crazy things. Last I checked, there’s nothing insane or negative about supporting a cause you care about. She is an advocate along with a whole lotta other people who make up the Happy Hippie Foundation.

Happy Hippie Foundation Manifesto Miley CyrusThose are not the ramblings of someone who needs to enter rehab or is out of control. She is loving life, doing her & trying to help people along the way. She has the fame and resources to do something good & she’s doing it.

Why are more people not talking about that?

I’ll tell you. Because we’re a bunch of people who get pleasure from ripping up other peoples character without knowing what the hell we’re talking about and it’s disgusting.

You do not need to agree with her choices of attire, the way she does her hair, what she posts on social media or who she’s making out with. She doesn’t give a #uck if you do or not & more people should strive for that mindset.

She is a role model for doing what makes her happy. She’s a role model for promoting and bringing attention to a cause that means something to her. She’s a role model for other free spirits. Perhaps if more people looked into who Miley Cyrus is as a person – they’d begin to look outside their own boxes and become a bit of a free spirit themselves. She loves herself & I love her too.

Girl Crush Crazy.

Don’t be ignorant, look into it.

Seriously STFU: Ignorant Football Fans

There are two things I talk a lot about: ignorance & football. I was lucky enough This year they seemed to go hand in hand. Football players showed plenty of ignorance – entire organizations did the same.

What irritates me more are the normal, everyday people/fans who throw words like, Thug out there. The people who cast overall judgement while they sit back & simply absorb what the media chooses feeds to them.

That’s lazy.

“All I know is just what I read in the papers, and that’s an alibi for my ignorance.”
Will Rogers

I keep my mouth shut if I’m not confident contributing. If I must open my mouth, I ask questions; it’s a valuable habit to have. My favorite thing about having that ability is that I don’t come across as an idiot. Priorities.

Why didn’t this enter into my thought process at any point? I never put that together.

Can we just all talk about how talented these guys are?

Gosh, it sure is fun to watch Richard Sherman intercept a ball.

Gee, how amazing was that run Marshawn did last Sunday?

I’d love to participate in that conversation, but unfortunately there’s a group of people who want to judge actions that… let’s be honest:

AREN’T THAT BIG OF A DEAL. 

[via: thesavvysista.com]
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Is Richard Sherman the only outspoken NFL player? Other players who passionately run their mouths, they don’t get talked about in the same manner as him. Is Mr. Sherman a bad person? Does it make him uneducated? Is he a thug?

Richard Sherman had a 4.2 grade-point average in high school. Received a football scholarship to Stanford, where he also ran track and earned a degree in communication. A DEGREE IN COMMUNICATION.

I don’t expect everyone to agree with his manner or choice of communication on or off the field. I do expect people, especially football fans to know what they’re talking about if they’re choosing to harshly judge someone.

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As far as Marshawn Lynch goes… he explained last year why he doesn’t enjoy talking to the media. marshawn

[via: deadspin.com]

His one-answer press conferences weren’t intended to be amusing… initially. Of course, as time progressed and the media & a bunch of other people, had their way with it… I’m sure he’s having a great time with it now [and so I am].

#LEAVEMARSHAWNALONE 

Wednesday January 29, 2015 - Marshawn Lynch Media Day Statement
Wednesday January 29, 2015 – Marshawn Lynch Media Day Statement

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Josh Gordon? What are your thoughts on him? He’s a drug addict. A bad person? A thug? I encourage you to read the open letter he wrote.

Dear Sir Charles, Stephen A., Cris and other interested parties

Most importantly, I have failed myself. Again.

But you know what, Charles, Stephen A., Cris and everyone else? I also have succeeded.

Truth is, I have not smoked marijuana since before I was drafted by the Browns in 2012 — and there are years’ worth of drug tests to prove it.

Josh Gordon Open Letter Medium

There are no rules or regulations when it comes to being ignorant. No one is directly punished for being uneducated and opinionated all at once… but they should be. The amount of resources available to research…whatever it is you want to be vocal about is fairly extensive. Utilize it. Don’t put your foot in your mouth by doing something stupid like calling Richard Sherman, Marshawn Lynch or Josh Gordon a thug.

Ignorance Is [NOT] Bliss

Seriously…STFU.


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I Support Pizza

I’m going to order a pizza from pizza hut. – Husband

I support that decision. – Me

TSWIFT THINKING

After I said it, I had a quick thought.

I’m not 100% sold on it myself… but, does I support seems like an overused statement?

I’m going to talk it out and figure out where I stand…

beCause,that’s my point.

Before you say you support something – educate yourself on it.

I support google search

I bet… majority more than 1/3 of the people who searched any of the above options, that my support for the delicious pizza that’s coming to my door – is more uneducatedsupportsincere than their support for single moms and/or Officer Wilson. If you claim to support something please be prepared to explain yourself when I ask you why.

Do you support Officer Wilson? Michael Brown; or you suddenly just support Ferguson in general? How come? What makes you feel that way? If you can’t come up with a single original thought, by all means…feel free to hop on the web & find some facts.

I can tell you, I support the pizza because:

  1. I’m starving…pretty much to the point of withering away.
  2. I haven’t had pizza in a solid…4 days. I need it.
  3. Pizza is my favorite food because cheese is amazing & any sort of carb rock my socks off.
  4. My husband took care of dinner & there is no mess to clean up.
  5. He also got wings. [Garlic Parmesan]

Five solid reasons to back up my support. Wasn’t difficult to come up with because I hold a stance on the issue. Sure, pizza may seem unimportant but, nonetheless – I feel I used the remark appropriately.

I figured it out.

The phrase I support is not overused, but the terminology should be more than a mere utterance. It does not matter how big or small the issue behind the expression is. What does matter is that your “support” is backed up with reasoning.

Ignorance is not okay.

Thanks for getting through that with me.